Updated: May 11, 2021
Your energy is directly correlated to your success and is one of the most important things to focus on. It’s very easy to form habits by daily repetition. You can choose to create habits that will move you forward or you can choose to engage in habits that drain you. The choice is yours.
Below are six energy draining habits that are not serving you:
Overthinking and worrying: Most of the time you worry about future events that haven't even happened yet.. The best thing to ask yourself when you see yourself worrying about something that may or may not happen is: "Is this happening right now? - if the answer is No, then ask yourself "do I want this to happen?" - if the answer is No again then please stop thinking or worrying about it. By thinking and dwelling about things that you don't want to happen you are more likely to experience them. If anything, dwell on the opposite or what you would love to happen instead. If you practice this technique regularly you will see that soon you worry much less and also bring more positive experiences into your life.
Holding on to the past: The past is gone, you can't change or relive it. By holding on to it and constantly dwelling on memories, good or bad, you're missing out on the here and now. You're missing the joy of the present moment. If you find yourself dwelling on mistakes you've made or something you regret you need to learn to forgive yourself. When you know that you wouldn't repeat what you did, then you're forgiven. Simple as that. Learn from the experience and move on. If you're holding grudges, let them go. Holding grudges only harms one person: YOU. Forgive the other person. It doesn't matter what they did and why they did it. Forgiveness doesn't mean what someone did was okay but it means that you forgive them for your own sake. Holding on to negative energy, memories, grudges and emotions only holds you back and harms you. Free yourself from it.
Scrolling mindlessly through social media every day. It's not productive, it drains your energy and often makes you feel bad about yourself as you're comparing your life to other people. Remember social media life usually has nothing to do with someone's real life. Stay in your own lane and use social media to uplift you. Unfollow people and pages who trigger your insecurities, who upset you or make you angry. Your social feed should be motivating, informative and inspiring you. Audit the accounts you're following and make good use of social media and your time.
Gossiping. Gossip is really bad energy and a lot of times involves jealousy or at least is somehow a reflection of you and something that you are not happy with about yourself. Gossip can really hurt someone else's reputation and feelings. Give people the benefit of the doubt, clear personal issues in private and always remember that you probably wouldn't want others to say these things about you. Just don't engage in it and stay away from people who gossip all the time. Chances are they are speaking about you too.
Complaining: If you're complaining it means that you're not grateful. Gratitude, love and appreciation are the highest frequencies and the most powerful emotions that you can have. According to the law of attraction, if you are grateful you will have more things to be grateful for. When you are constantly complaining you are on a very low frequency where you attract more things to complain about. You choose what you want to attract. A great exercise to practice daily gratitude is to write down at least 10 things you are grateful for every morning and 10 things to be grateful for before you go to bed. Many people think they have nothing to be grateful for, because they're thinking of lack. Have you considered the fact that you're alive? that you're breathing? that you have food to eat and a roof over your head? work maybe? health? family and friends? when you start thinking about what you do have and what you wouldn't want to lose, you will start feeling grateful and that is a wonderful feeling to have.
Negative thoughts: unfortunately we are dealing with the negative brain bias. This means that our mind gravitates towards the negative and that you focus more on the things that are wrong, rather than the things that are right. Unless we are conscious of our thoughts, we can't change them. Now that you are aware of this, you are able to train your mind to look at the positives rather than negatives. When a negative thought crosses your mind, replace it with a positive one. When you think "what if I fail and it all goes wrong?" ask yourself "What if I don't and everything works out exactly the way I wanted it to go". Positive thinking is empowering!
These are only some of the daily energy drainers that many of us engage in. The great thing is that it is your choice what you do with them and you can choose to create positive habits and thinking patterns.